Is this the start of the death watch?

I am back. Just when I think I understand the Outlaws, things change. Maybe my problem is that I see things as they are and know the outcome of any course of action, or inaction, they take. It always ends the same way because the only strategy employed is hope. Hope is not a strategy.

Anyway, the latest, which is in many ways the most convenient for us, is that MIL is going into palliative care at a hospital nearby us. It is part of the same geriatric center where FIL has his "club". Club is funny as it activities shared by like minded, or lost minded, people. This is just another reason why I have often found myself living the Groucho Marx line of "never wanting to belong to a club that would have somebody like me for a member". This "club" of my FIL's is further proof of my not wanting to belong to that club.

Anyway, as much as my MIL would like to be at home, she cannot. FIL is impossible at night and keeps disturbing her. The hospital bed in the other room for my MIL was a good start. Some physical separation may let her get some rest and leave her less weary. FIL has a way of screwing up those plans because nobody factors in the fact that he does not listen and is DEMENTED. He is like a toddler without the cuteness. He walks like a toddler, too, so you never know when he will fall while walking.

The solution always seemed to me to be twofold. Sedate him and restrain him. I am not sure the restraints are a good idea, but he NEEDS to be sedated through the night. It may not be so much for him as it is for the care giver. Then again, if she cannot put up with him, then he is fucked. So, it really is for his own good, ultimately.

It is funny that I had asked the question of what if he outlives her. That scenario is upon us and I knew it as a possible outcome. The whole next step will be very interesting. The status quo is what it is. At least, with MIL close by, visiting will be easy for the Wife and we can get there quickly if the need arises.

Blah! I wish I had happier news or thoughts to report but this is front and center in my life right now. This is the way it is right now and it will change. In that change, will be opportunity, so I am alert, or alert as somebody can be when waking up at five in the morning to talk the Wife from the proverbial anxiety ledge. There is an upside to being laid back and removed from one's own life.

Well, I hope y'all had nice weekends (fucking awesome weather in these parts). Ciao!